A Little Help from my Friends
“Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends”
I’ve had that Beatles song running through my head this afternoon…not that I mind, I adore the Beatles, so having a Beatles song as an earworm companion is not what I call a bad afternoon. Now let me just caveat this post by saying many people think this song is about drugs, which John Lennon denied…although for my money it pretty much seems like that’s what it’s about…however, for the sake of this post let’s just go with John Lennon’s claims and assume the song is not, in fact, about drugs, ok? Thanks.
A couple of weeks ago I spent a glorious week on vacation with my kids. We went on adventures, we lazed around, we ate too much, we watched sunsets…and other than a snorkeling trip in some pretty rough waters where I had to work pretty hard to get where I was going, I did not get a single workout in during my week away.
Now, part of that was purposeful. I run my body pretty hard on a daily basis, and I think it’s important to allow my body to rest at times. But, if I’m being honest, another part of that was simply not having the accountability of my weekly schedule that forces me to be active.
I’ve been thinking a lot about that this afternoon…and, what I think often goes hand in hand, our very human tendency to get down on ourselves when we aren’t able to achieve our goals on our own.
But, my friends, we get by with a little help from our friends.
I wonder how we might change if, instead of getting down on ourselves when we don’t achieve our goals on our own, we might celebrate the fact that we live in community. I wonder how it might feel to celebrate the accountability we need as a method for further and deeper human connection. I wonder how it might feel if we really did choose to get by with a little help from our friends.
My dear friends, I hope today you can celebrate the community you live in, you can celebrate the accountability you need as an opportunity for human connection. I hope you can celebrate your need to get by with a little help from your friends.
And reach out for some accountability ideas/help…I have some ideas percolating…we can do this, together.
I hope you have an amazing week, my friends.
Pre-covid I had a daily commute where I would drop my kids off at school, go north on Beach Drive for a bit, and then drive up Broad Branch Road on my way to my first or second class of the day, depending on the day.
I loved that space in my day. Reverse traffic, driving through the park on the daily. I loved watching and noticing the world…seeing the changes of the seasons on a daily basis…noticing the little differences in the world around me as I drove through the park every day.
Some days I would have a 10 or 12 minute window where I could drink my coffee while sitting on a rock next to the running water…a short, brief, and lovely space in an oftentimes otherwise hectic work day.
But my favorite thing about that commute was every year around fall, when the leaves started to drop from the trees, a little waterfall appeared on Broad Branch, and stayed until spring growth hid it from the world again until the next fall.
During Covid I didn’t have that daily commute. Now, truth be told, I love my work week so much more now than I did pre-Covid…I adore this business I was able to build, and my life feels so much more sustainable in the long run then it did pre-Covid…but even when recognizing the benefits of my life now versus then, there are still aspects of my old life that I miss.
These days I’m back to that commute…but instead of it being every day, I drive it once every other week. Of late, every time I pass that little waterfall I smile, knowing in a few weeks it will be hidden by the bright, luscious green of spring, waiting to reappear again in the fall.
My dear friends, we can hold both the benefits and drawbacks of changing situations in our lives in both hands…we can see them and recognize them both as truth.
I hope, this week, you can see the validity of holding multiple truths simultaneously.
Have an amazing week, my friends.
My Mask First Revisited
My mask first.
I’ve been thinking a lot this week about the post I wrote a couple weeks back, and about what it looks like to put our own mask on first, to take care of ourselves so that we, in turn, can take care of others when needed.
Here’s the thing, there isn’t one right answer on that, is there? Taking care of ourselves looks vastly different to different folks, but also to ourselves day to day. One day it could very well be a yoga class and a bath, and the next it could be making that doctor's appointment that you’ve put off for months.
But, no matter what it looks like, I think it’s about paying attention to our own individual needs without pushing those needs to the side, without dismissing them as less important than the needs of those around us.
For me a few weeks ago, self-care looked like giving up a couple of classes so I would have a little more space in my week for other work responsibilities. Self-care also looked like moving a meeting from the coffee shop where we planned on going, and instead taking a walk under the cherry trees while meeting since they were still in bloom. Self-care looked like writing a hard email even though I really didn’t want to write said email.
No matter what your self-care looks like this week, I hope you will be aware of your own individual needs. I hope you will see that your needs are valid and real, and that your version of self-care is important.
I hope you care for yourself deeply this week, my friends.
Next week is Spring Break at my kids' school, and the three of us are headed out of town for the week for a little vacation. It’ll be my first week off in a while, and I’m excited to take some time away from work.
I adore this work I get to do. It is an absolute privilege to be able to do what I do for a living, and I feel so very grateful for it and for all of you each and every day. I could not do what I do without you, and I see and recognize that truth. I feel deeply how privileged I am that I have been able to continue in this beautiful work, and for that, I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
And even in the great joy I derive from this work I’m privileged to do, I think it’s important to give ourselves the space to step away at times, to slow down, to take a little time off every so often. This work is beautiful and wonderful…and tiring…and in that, it’s important to allow myself time off.
There’s a temptation, especially since my work is all online, to take the work with me when I go, to teach my classes even when I’m away…and there are times and will be times when that decision is right and correct…but there are times when I, and we all need to just step away and take the time to slow down, to breathe, to have a little more leisure in our schedule, to find stillness. There are times when the most important thing is to be present with the ones we are with, and to be fully engaged with the people closest to us.
My dear friends, I hope this week we can give ourselves permission to slow down, to find a little more stillness. I hope this week we can be a little more engaged with the people closest to us. I hope we can see them, we can appreciate who they are in our lives, and we can take the time to step away and step a little closer into relationship with those who are most important to us.
I hope you have an amazing week my friends.
Hi, I'm Krista!
Krista Mason is a yoga and fitness instructor based in Washington DC. She owns an online studio and loves it!